When I first sought out recovery for healing from the anger, resentment, and hurt I had towards my husband, I read books and prayed A LOT. I was asking God to show me how to let go and let God. I can remember specifically praying this prayer, “God I’m not the brightest crayon in the box, show me how to turn it all over to you”. I thought I was never going to get it. I didn’t have a clue on how to take the first step towards healing. I read books on how to be a better Christian woman, wife, and mother. I read books on how to have a mind more like Christ. During this time my recovery was weak and slow. Don’t get me wrong, I read some really good books, and had some great talks with God but my growth was just not as fast as I had hoped for. During this time my husband who was involved in various groups and then began leading in a ministry was blooming into this beautiful flower. I was happy but I was also sad because I wanted to have the freedom at the level that he had.
If I were to guess I would say I’m not the only one who has taken this approach in their recovery. The thing is this, growth and healing comes from community. It’s biblical. When I began seeking out others who understood my pain and hurts I began feeling better. In time God started to use me, for the newcomers that walked through that door who had the same hurts that I once did. Galatians 6:2 tells us to “carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ”. We need to be in community to help get us thru some of our toughest times. The enemy is so good at getting into our heads. We need a group who is in our corner, people that we can call on. 1 Thessalonians 5:11 is very clear on this need and tells us to “encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing”.
Growth partners are so important and I have been blessed with some amazing people who have helped show me the love of Christ and my value in Him. I have had some great people encourage me to give back because this will not only help others but bless me tenfold. Boy were they right! If we want to continue to grow in Christ and recover from whatever our past hurts were, community and groups are the answer.
I have seen so many people enter community and begin the healing process and then think they can do it on their own. They drop out, they stop calling friends and they eventually fall back into old habits and thinking. Don’t let the enemy take you down! Hebrews 10:24-25 says “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds. Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another-and all the more as you see the day approaching”.
We need each other to heal and grow. We all have a story. We all have talents and can help out others in some way. Proverbs 27:17 says “as iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another”. Who is helping you? Who are you helping? We get out of our recovery what we put in. Where are you at? Are you happy? Do you want more? Don’t let the busyness of life keep you from community and growing in your recovery. The enemy will use whatever he can to keep you away. Don’t give him that power. Let’s recover together!