Control. What comes to mind when you see this word? Maybe you are thinking about your controlling parents or your significant other controlling who you have as friends. Reality tells us that at some point in all of our lives control is something we try to have or obtain. For me years ago, I tried to control my husband and his addiction. Yes I know this sounds absolutely crazy but it really happened and it was one of the worst times of my life. My need to control was controlling me.
For those of us in recovery we have to learn to give up control. Rather we are recovering from addiction, co-dependence, anger issues, whatever it may be control has no place in our lives. As I mentioned reality tells us we will try to control at some point, but hopefully reality makes it clear to us we actually control nothing. Your and my best attempts at controlling got us to where we are today.
If we aren’t careful control can lead to a lot of problems in our lives. Relationships can suffer and even be destroyed or we may become ill. For me my need to control resulted in obsessive worrying and anxiety. Praise God in recovery I learned an age-old saying “Let go and let God”. It is hard to do and I, as many of you are, am a work in progress. However, today I pray every day knowing I’m not in control. And because I serve an awesome God I don’t have to worry. Philippians 4:6-7 tells us, “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus”.
I know control can be a hard thing to give up, especially when we have spent years trying to master how to control others and our surroundings. The bible says we all fall short of the glory of God, but give it a try. When we finally let go of our need to control we will find peace. In time it will get easier.
Today I’m going to do my best to not be in control. I’m going to get out-of-the-way and cast my anxieties on Him because he cares Peter 5:7. Today I am going to let go and Let God are you?